Wednesday, November 14, 2007

Modern relationship fail cause

Το μεγαλύτερο πρόβλημα των ομοφυλοφύλων και όχι μόνο νομίζω ότι το διατύπωσε ακριβέστατα ο Andy Warhol ως εξής:

* Οι φαντασιώσεις είναι που δημιουργούν προβλήματα στους ανθρώπους. Αν δεν είχατε φαντασιώσεις δε θα είχατε προβλήματα, γιατί απλά θα παίρνατε ό,τι υπήρχε. Τότε όμως δε θα είχατε και ειδύλλια, γιατί το ειδύλλιο είναι να βρεις τη φαντασίωσή σου σε κάποιον που δεν την έχει. Ένας φίλος μου λέει: «Αγαπούν σ’ εμένα τον άντρα που δεν είμαι».
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I think that Andy warhol, expressed perfectly the main problem of gay and not only when he said that: Fantasy love is much better than reality love. Never doing it is very exciting. The most exciting attractions are between two opposites that never meet. A fiend of mine says: they love in me the man I am not.

So many people, project their fantasy on their partners, who of course do not meet this ideal. At the begining, this fantasy can be sustained, up to the point that it starts colapsing. Then the idea, that the ideal man, might be somewhere out there, waiting to be discouvered, while you are waisting your time with your current lover, makes them cheat on the partner.

My suggestion is to try to find someone near this ideal, and then try to live together and meet the person, forget the ideal, insist and learn from your mistakes in the relationship, then if one day this finishes, you will have earned valuable experience, that will make you choose better the next candidate. And what is more important, you can apply what you learned and avoid stupid mistakes with the man of your dreams, because you will be more mature...

People separate and give up on each others, so easily...
there is a reason for everything, you can do you life meanigless or meanigfull, learn from what you experience, and stop repeating the same mistakes....

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8 Comments:

Blogger Alex A. said...

What a great post! Thanks, dear Alchimist, for always giving us food for thought... I have been thinking like this about my relationship for awhile, and your ideas really hit the nail in the head. Have a great Sunday afternoon!

11/18/2007 5:45 PM  
Blogger alximist said...

Hey Alex.,
Well I hope that this encouraged you to stay together...
Well who always give us food of thought, is you and you know it!
I think that some of your older post reflect these ideas more or less. And it is not limited only to gay. Φαντάζομαι ότι μια από τις αιτίες είναι ότι είμαστε διαρκώς υπο ανηλεή βομβαρδισμό τέλειων εικόνων photoshop, που αρχίζουμε να πιστεύουμε ότι εκεί εξω είναι γεμάτο με πρίγκιπες.

I was reading it again, and I found lot of mistakes in grammar...sorry guys, but I am bored to correct them...

11/19/2007 5:20 PM  
Blogger Tassos said...

όμορφες σκέψεις...
but I love repeating the same mistakes
maybe thats why I keep returning to Brazil
kisses

11/21/2007 5:37 AM  
Blogger alximist said...

So, you come back to Brazil just to sin? Tassos o Pecador?
Σκέψεις μπορούν να γίνουν πράξη, αν υπάρχει θέληση...Algumas coisas tem força para acontecer em momentos certos. Talvez o seu momento é do "pecado", haha
Bem vindo no meu blog.

11/21/2007 8:37 AM  
Blogger Tassos said...

No I do not come to Brazil just to sin, but sin follows me everywhere I go! haha
Obrigado pela hospitalidade!
beijos

11/21/2007 9:28 AM  
Blogger alximist said...

Οπου γης και πατρις!
χεχε..
Καλυτερα να αμαρτάνει κανείς, παρα να του μένουν απωθημένα...
As long as you carry in your bags the desire, you will sin anywhere you go...
bj

11/21/2007 5:45 PM  
Blogger Homossexual e Pai said...

estabelecer um relacionamento não é tão complicado assim, basta ser vc mesmo e aceitar o outro, sem pre-ideias, sem pré-sonhos, sem pré-necessiadades.
Um momento de cada vez e todos juntos!
abs

11/22/2007 11:37 PM  
Blogger alximist said...

Pois é muito simples, e na minha vida não posso dizer que sofrí muito, ao contrario tive sorte ou melhor sabia a quem confiar, com quiem sintonizava melhor para construir algo juntos. Aceitação do outro é uma chave fundamental.
Mai claro que existem pre ideias, ou stereotipos, e estos duram um tempo até conhecer um ao outro.
Quando alguiem me disse , eu tambem quero ter um relacionameto, e muda namorados, toda semana, isso mostra o que? Se quizer ter um relacionamento, tem que se dedicar. Eu não acredito nas relações abertas, são uma mentira, nunca tive, nem pretendo aceitar isso. Posso etender, posso desculpar e aceitar um erro do meu parcero, mais nos dois não cabe tercero. Relacionamento de amor, é uma união, nos momentos dificeis, e bons...
Mais tem que ser maduro para aplicar tudo isso...

11/23/2007 9:34 PM  

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